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An historic moment. Our love + commitment is legal.

Thursday, May 15th, 2008

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My Canadian wife and California fiancee Stacey. We will be *LEGALLY* married in San Francisco like every other couple can now be in the State.

My first call was to my Canadian wife/ California fiancee, my second to the caterer.


Free! Don’t need permission! So overoyed!

The Wedding FAQ I wrote after Wedding 1.0 in Canada explaining how I feel about it all and why we are getting married twice.

20 Lesbian Wedding Etiquette tips (jokes) I wrote for Curve.

VOTE this November to ensure the constitutional amendment to save my marriage and stop the anti-gay proposition from amending the California constitution.



This is what progress looks like

Tuesday, May 13th, 2008


This is what progress looks like, originally uploaded by

The greatest changes are found in the mundane.

No financial cost to make this change. Huge time investment to change the consciousness that led to it.

Result: some peoples’ existence is publicly reflected where it was once invisible.

Imagine you are transgender (or perhaps you don’t have to imagine) and how remarkable it would feel to finally have this box to check.

Anger at Hillary Clinton

Thursday, April 10th, 2008

How much anger and rhetoric thrown at Hillary Clinton from many pundit dudes is “mommy-don’t-control-me” anger? (more…)

Sex and the Presidency

Tuesday, March 4th, 2008

Some recent stand-up fun. Thanks to Nato Green for having me at Laughing Liberally, Kurt Weitzmann and Will Durst.

Venom: the Hillary / Obama thing

Thursday, February 28th, 2008

My friend Rebecca commented on my last post about Hilary’s use of snark via facebook:

You know, I didn’t find that “over the top” and “mocking” at all — I really wish that Arianna could tone down her obvious bias in every single thing she writes about Hillary. I expected something really theatrical and dramatic. Hillary was dead on. (more…)

Am I married while we’re in NY?

Friday, February 8th, 2008

An appelate court just recognized a Canadian wedding of 2 women. Does this mean we’re married when in NY? I am still thinking I need to go get some power of attorney forms and all that other jazz we have to do to attempt to make up in contract what marriage does.

Can I make a decision for her if, for some yucky reason, she’s unconscious in a hospital?

The blogging equivalent of the wave

Wednesday, February 6th, 2008

In looking at the Obama blog I’m noticing people doing a blogwave, basically posting one letter and then trusting the next person to spell the next letter and so on. Usually Yes We Can!

Has anyone seen this before on a blog? It’s a really interesting method of trust and connection through fun + vulnerability in a digital space.How’s that for analyzing the crap out of something fun. It’s like analyzing a joke, I know. 

Why I am 4Obama

Tuesday, February 5th, 2008

THGS guest Lawrence Lessig’s eloquent piece (20 min) on why he supports Obama. My thoughts? What he said. Plus this:I was a feminist leader on the Yale Campus, about to turn 40, someone who saw Hillary Rodham Clinton (as she was then called) as a great asset when Bill won in 92. I was thrilled. I should be exactly who would be voting for Hillary, but she lost my support and even more so, Barack has very much won it. Feminism, like every social justice movement, is about equality, justice and inclusion. But a foundation of integrity is what compels us to care about these things.

Lawrence Lessig on Hillary Clinton

Monday, February 4th, 2008

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Things people say to me when they find out I’m married to a woman.

Thursday, January 31st, 2008

I’ve decided to start sharing these moments.

“I belong to the Unitarian Universalist Fellowship (while fishing a card for me out of her pocketbook) and we have many gay couples. And they’re very ordinary. They have jobs. I don’t like it when people are half-naked. …When we were having dinner with friends the other day…they’ve been together 25 years, and, well they’re retired now, and they were holding hands. I felt so good inside. Not tolerant you see, I felt good.”

–A Holocaust survivor in the locker room at the YMCA (and I’m not just adding that detail in for irony)

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