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The family of now

Friday, February 26th, 2010
16 months. That's the answer.

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Baby Book 2.0: My Long Talk with Leo LaPorte

Tuesday, February 9th, 2010

I had a lovely time guesting on This Week In Google recently and afterwards Leo and I chatted. It turned into a kind of spontaneous broadcasting marathon with about 8,000 folks tuning in live. I had just inseminated for the first time that morning and we talk about that and all the tech and absurdity involved. If I am pregnant (fingers crossed) then this would be a heck of a way to start the baby book memories.

Leo and I talked about a lot of things, among them: his years in radio, people he's interviewed like Jimmy Stewart and Adam West, his weekend with Steve Jobs, comedy, why talk radio is so emotionally melodramatic and how to do independent content online and make it work financially.

It's been said many times but I'll say it again: Leo is a total mensch and maybe one of the nicest people in broadcasting. You know how Conan said work hard and be kind to people and good things will happen? Leo deserves to receive an endless supply of good things.

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To become a better judge of character…

Monday, January 18th, 2010
Congratulations. This means you've decided to change you instead of pretending others will change. You have no control over others.
1. Listen to what you've noticed and add a delay to your major decisions about people. This will *not* feel natural. It will feel intellectual and not like a gut choice. You might feel guilty. You might feel like you have to resist something you feel you want to do. That's good because you've already decided that you are not a great judge of character. You're changing that.

2. Make sure you spend some time away from the person you're making the decision about while you make the decision.

3. Watch your cynicism. Never trusting isn't any more accurate or worthwhile than overtrusting. Just take more time.

4. Notice peoples' actions. Do they walk their talk? Do they follow through? Do they at least verbally acknowledge responsibility and mistakes when they were unable to follow through?
5. If someone's talking smack about others to you, they're probably doing the same to you.

7. If someone's cheating on someone else with you, the odds are higher they'll cheat on you (this one never ceases to amaze me).

8. Is the relationship mutually beneficial?

9. Practice telling someone directly what you need from them or what your concern is if you have one. They might not be able to meet your need but should be able to handle relaxed, direct communication. If they can't handle direct eye contact that's worth trying to understand.

10. Are you a bad judge of character or are your expectations based on your own needs and not on the reality of what this person can or has committed to deliver?

11. Watch someone in action: playing a sport, under pressure or in some other flow activity. It's easier to see more of what they're really about.

12. Notice how people treat their friends, co-workers, family and especially how they treat people in different "status" positions and people who are of no apparent "use" to them. Does their behaviour change? 13. If you expect relationships (personal, work or otherwise) to always fail or be unreliable then you might have learned to read your dysfunctional family experience as a truth about everyone. There's plenty of self-help literature, 12 step groups like Al Anon and counseling to help deal with this.

14. Believe what you see.
Inspired by a @ryanomics tweet.

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Stephen Hawking: Evolution? You're soaking in it..Info 'R Us.

Sunday, January 10th, 2010

We are evolving through "self-defined evolution."
"I think it is legitimate to take a broader view, and include externally transmitted information, as well as DNA, in the evolution of the human race."

-Stephen Hawking
This top 2009 post of Daily Galaxy is worth reading. I especially like this comment from Ionut: "We should be carefull because if this technology will be very efficient we will have humans that act like machines before we manage to create machines that act "human-like." Sadly, I think we've already made a lot of progress toward making humans more machine-like and that we're in a moment of negotiating a return to our human-ness.

(via AndrewSullivan)

RIP social space of indie bookstores – Toronto's Pages closes

Wednesday, July 15th, 2009

photo by Matthew Kim

I just got back from Toronto. It was my first summer visit there since the summers when I came out there..at 19 and 20. It's been a long time.  A lot has changed. There are lots of new museums and buildings and lofts but as I strolled down Queen Street West, where I used to hang out back when it was far grittier, I noticed that Pages bookstore is just about to close.

Pages was a beautiful indie bookstore with lots of large coffee table books in the window and a mix of academic, indie and arty stuff. There were more magazines than I'd ever seen and more gay, lesbian and generally sexy material than I'd ever seen outside of the porn section of the family corner store where I sometimes worked. There was nothing about those magazines that was for me.

It was a clean, well lit place for cruising. I was terrified coming out back then. It was 1986 and there was nothing generally acceptable about being attracted romantically or physically to someone of the same-sex.

There was one lesbian bar and a feminist book store that carried ear cuffs, women symbol earrings and cassette tapes full of songs about spilling up and over like a waterfall. I tried all of these. I admit it. But how else were you supposed to meet women or more specifically womyn? How would you know thy were gay?  How did you even know what it was that you felt inside? Until our feelings are mirrored, we aren't sure it's ok to have them.

I didn't like to drink and I wasn't going to the Michigan Womyns Music Festival (one woman I met gushed about how people there braided their armpit hair). Pages was much more my speed. Dorky and thinky, it was a place where stylish, chunky glasses and footwear prevailed. It had gay stuff but it wasn't only gay. It was maybe the first space I was even in that had room to be gay and not gay together. I could try it out without having to give myself entirely over to it. At Pages I could stand somewhere and be excited about ideas and cute women.

Richard Nash is right that books are social objects, social glue (as are all artists and our work…especially performances..more on that to come). But bookstores are social spaces. And Pages was a great one. I never did meet anyone in its aisles. But I could have. Just being in there meant a lot to me. There was some place that felt right. Some place I belonged.

Goodbye Pages. Many thanks.

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[vid] tHGS@SXSW07: Continuous Partial Attention

Saturday, March 7th, 2009

        

with /Micki Krimmel, Derek Powazek, Tantek

This year's tHGS@SXSW is March 16th: Something From Nothing feat. Derek Sivers (CDBaby), Andy Baio
(Upcoming, waxy) + Janice Fraser (Emmet Labs, Adaptive Path). Please come. Participate from anywhere
and help make it happen and support great crowdsourced convo. http://heathergold.com/show

My piece on vlogging airs on CBC's Spark today

Thursday, December 11th, 2008

I spend a lot of time going between coasts and between the online and offline "real" world. In order to bridging the geek/non-geek divide, I went to Port Jefferson Long Island to explain vlogging.

Listen 20 minutes in.

This is a short, This American Life-ish piece. And I stand by my assertion that within 5 years, so vlogging will be so commonplace, we probably won't use that term for it anymore.

Vote today: Everything I Need to Know About the Web I Learned From Feminism

Friday, August 29th, 2008

Vote for my SXSW Panel

I've proposed this as a panel at SXSW 09. I'm really looking forward to digging into this conversation with some really interesting feminist scholars and web / network thinkers. This is the last day to vote. If you'd like this conversation to happen at SXSW, please vote for it now and I'll podcast it too.

There is a really lovely compatibility about the notion of transcendence in both feminism and the Net….both of which give protection and community to those who have been invisible / "private" before.

The Net is quantifying / making visible the value of the social skills / communal skills that have previously gone unvalued by the market or "public" space.

This is inspired, in part, by something else I'm working on: a talk about how I do the performance I do….how to design for conversation rather than presentation all of which changes notions of where authority comes from. This is because the value is relational rather than one-off.

I think it always was..but that aspect was "hidden" by it being a silent piece of "private" life that women mostly carried out….preparing holidays, gatherings..maintaining relationships..creating  and giving physical and other bits of acknowledgement (gifts , cards ..the Christmas newsletter etc) and of course the "salon" which has been a big piece of the basis of how I've mashed up a new kind of performance.

There are quite a few ideas embedded in here and for the mag piece..perhaps best to focus on the social networking piece..but that's just the latest business surfacing of something much deeper..which is the way the West is turning more relational this way…that's my instinct.

It's just too costly to market / force awareness of onesself/business without a network effect and any lasting audience/network  can only happen through what is community and community can only be maintained by this "female" stuff.

I found it very interesting in India where these social roles and conventions are still so deeply a part of peoples' daily lives. I had an unusually deep experience of it myself because of the Niagara Falls shtetl in which I was raised.

I'm excited to see the value of this feminist stuff (as well as performance stuff) in the business arena…though I'm aware that I'm really out on the front edge of explaining and doing much of it..the social media consulting world and facebook shows this stuff to be shifting.

this morning: Michelle Obama and my possible GTD conversion

Tuesday, August 26th, 2008

Even though it is sad and a tad ridiculous to me that Michelle Obama had to give the "Look, I don't have horns" presentation to the nation, nothing in this video is meant to belittle the fact that it is moving to feel:

  • we could have an emotionally functional first family
  • the joy of a possible first lady whose peace comes from within and not over the counter
  • an African-American family take its place on our national stage of power and hold its ground. Finally.
  • America begin to realize how much of its bountiful human resource it has been ignoring.

Daily Epigram: trust

Tuesday, June 3rd, 2008

There's no hack for building trust.

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