Archive for the “sex” Category

headlining Gaypril at the U of Rochester

Wednesday, May 2nd, 2007

The show was a blast. One audience member brought her teddy bear named Cuddles to the show.Turns out she’s a straight Christian who lives her spiritual politics. Of course, the bear brought up plushy references from me in the show which then brought out a furry to me after the show (who pronouced Cookie “The hottest, funniest show I’ve ever seen.”). That’s some diversity!

Top Secret Valentine

Monday, February 5th, 2007

You don’t just make appointments,
you make time stop

Just so I can see you more,
I’ve broken my clock.

I long to feel you run
your fingers on my hair.

I long to see you dressed in less
than day or evening wear.

I’m secure enough in my manhood
to marry the gays

But I can’t take my wife on Fox,
we’re going separate ways.

Are you so hot, you’ll make me miss
the future I have made?

Well, I’ve watched Bill and Rudy,
and so I am not afraid.

Please meet me late tonight,
I’ve got a Plumpjack wine.

Admiring you not from afar,
your secret valentine.

Gavin Newsom

What transparency has done to politics

Friday, February 2nd, 2007

Democrat Gavin Newsom has just admitted an affair with the wife of one of his aides (his re-election campaign . He’s Mayor of San Francisco. I figure he’s bummed that his ex-wife, former lingerie mode, turned DA has now turned Fox News personality.

It took Bill Clinton to run for the White House before he admitted an affair.

Soon the affairs will be listed in that little book we get when you go to the polls, and we can vote for the person with the best affairs.

In the blood from a stone department

Monday, January 22nd, 2007

“People look to adult movies for personal contact, and yet they’re still not getting it. HD lets them see a little bit more of the girl.”

– porn director Robby D. in today’s NYTimes

I don’t think that HD is going to give porn viewers personal contact. Nor are girls going to give them adult entertainment. Why go to a hardware store to buy bread?

(Thanks to Liz B for the lovely phrase)

The Heather Gold Show: Receiving Rundown

Thursday, January 4th, 2007

Saturday November 11, 2006

i first heard about my first guest, love artist Kathe Izzo, during the Intimacy show, when Michelle Tea mentioned experincing intimacy when she was being loved by Kathy at a tremedous distance, across the country. “It just made me feel so good to know that three was someone out there loving me,” she said.

That seemed fascinating to me at the time, in an anthropological way. I didn’t understand that on a visceral level until I was injured just weeks before the Receiving show, and experienced asking for and receiving love at a distance from many people while recovering from my elbow surgery (I broke my funny bone. Comic karma).

Kathe takes love to new depths and certainly breadths. It is literally all she has done for years. She is a performance artist from the visual art tradition of installations. Her interest in the boundary between life and art drew her to the area of love and she had for years loved people, of every stripe in person at museum installations, at their homes for a day, or even at across the country while they are working at a bookstore, (as Michelle Tea was) sending them loving emails that come from a completely present place of loving acceptance.
While Kathe acknowledged that she is comfortable giving, the topic of Receiving was a challenge sh is working on. She has receintly been loaned a sum for career investment by a sweetie who wants to take care of her, a new adjustment she is making with her decision to value herself as she does everyone she will love (which is anyone)

Former San Francisco 49ers Tight End Dr. Jamie Williams gave a profound life and football receiving lesson. He picked a random woman out of the audience to teach who turned out to have quarterbacked her Nebraska high school team’s powder puff team. (I love how the midwest tries to mix a cosmetic term in there to make it seem like the girls aren’t really playing football).

Jamie had great chemistry with Kathe which I really enjoyed. I love it when the show brings together people who might not otherwise meet. Both Kathe and Jamie seemed to be coming at life questions in some similar ways, despite their very different pursuits in film and football (Jamie) and performance art (Kathe).

Shanan Carney, also known as the Voice of Tivo discussed her recuperation from her recent knee surgery. A neighbor kindly agreed to bring her ice every day to fill a special machine which cooled the swelling. This small act of kindness has prompted Shanan to soon launch a vlog called “Random Acts of Kindness” based on the premise that vrey small, meaningful acts can make a huge difference. Both of us, based on our injuries, agreed that receiving can make one feel compelled to give. Shanan called her doctor to find out who else had a surgery and needed ice. She later came over to my place, complete with elf costume, cohort and camera crew to loan me the ice machine and ice to cool my elbow, prepping for the vlog.

Audience regular Scott brought a fabulous Linzer tort. I will ask him for the recipe to post here.

Highlights and Links

  • Even though Kathe has gone to the home of complete strangers in New York City to love them for the day, she has never felt unsafe. “If I am giving them everything they need,then what more can they want?” She has held her ground by clearly taking care of her own needs and letting those who are emotionally needy that her own aegis matters.
  • Jamie Williams – “To catch the ball, you have to want to catch the ball.”
  • Kathe Izzo’s True Love Project
  • In order to truly receiv one has to not give back to the giver right away. This is something of a refusal of the kindness (and whatever else being given to you). If you feel compelled to give yourself, then as people say, “pay it forward.”

Gay panic is over in the military, says [butch] U.S. General

Tuesday, January 2nd, 2007

Gen. Shalikashvili has an op-ed in today’s New York Times saying that it’s about time the US military caught up with the rest of the Western world and allowed it’s imperial goals to employ honest gay and lesbian people, just like everyone else.

Thanks to Harvey Milk and millions of gay people who have come out over the years showing up on television, the PTA meeting and the foxhole next to you, the General says that now people in the military are cool with the homos. It’s even been proven by a Zogby survey, he says, so girl you know it’s true.

Daily Epigram

Thursday, December 28th, 2006
  1. People who have given up on power in the rest of their lives, find it in sex.

Queerchannel radio tonight

Sunday, November 12th, 2006

Yes that was me on 960am tonight partaking in all the Mark Foley / Ted Haggard fun. Once again, Christianity and Republicans are united by homosexuality.

You change just one letter of business

Monday, October 16th, 2006

and it becomes pussiness.

Well ok, two letters.

Happy Coming Out Day

Wednesday, October 11th, 2006

Coming out is not just about the gender of the people you desire. It’s about being your whole self, in public. It’s about honesty. It’s about transparency. It’s about difference and togetherness. It’s about self-acceptance, not waiting for the acceptance of others. It’s about integration. It’s about the whole cookie. I wish it, in all aspects of life, for you.

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